You can not remain self-loving while remaining in an unhealthy relationship. As you grow healthier and begin to take responsibility for your own life you will no longer need or desire a relationship with an unhealthy partner. The key to leaving a relationship is knowing when to leave. Sometimes, because we believe there may be hope, or because of our circumstance, we prolong leaving. If you are ambiguous about leaving for these reasons or because it is just not comfortable these may help.
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If you are suffering from mental or physical abuse you have stayed too long. Leaving is always appropriate when your well-being is in jeopardy.
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If the relationship does not allow for growth it is time to leave. A relationship that can not change, grow, or move will wither and die. Is your partner making an earnest effort? Are you? The measure of effort should be judged by action not words. What story do the actions tell? Try to recognize when change is genuine or simply empty promises providing false hope.
Sometimes we stay because of a misplaced sense of loyalty or because of guilt. We settle for a bad relationship because we do not want to hurt our children. Remember we are teaching our children how to love by example. What they learn from you will be continued in their lives and possibly their children's lives.
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